When you’re a working mom, every day is a struggle. Each working mom is a Wonder Woman who is challenged by many supertasks at once. Being productive and successful at work and giving your children love and care, looking good, keeping your house clean, food cooked, and marriage happy – this is what the world demands from them.
Is it possible to always nail them all? Of course not, but this fact doesn’t stop the judgments, the guilt, and the pressure over working moms. They live in constant stress and self-blame for everything. Not enough time spent with kids, leaving from work later, fast-food for dinner – that inner prosecutor never shuts up. “You aren’t trying hard enough”. Sounds familiar?
How to Make It Better
In a violent rhythm of life, everyday routine and endless stress it’s easy to forget about the main underappreciated supertask – self-care. Working moms often take care of everything except their own happiness and sanity. This is no good either for their mental health nor for their family and career.
Your children and husband can’t be happy without a happy mother and wife. You should value yourself the way you value your marriage, your work, and your motherhood. These tips will help you make it through the darkest hours of self-doubts, depression and hard days.
Take care of your health
Never ignore any warning symptoms. Chronic fatigue, pelvic pain or repeating headaches are reasons to consult a specialist. Your health matters. Find the time for this in your violent schedule because it’s a matter of top importance.
Every little thing you do matters. There will be days when you may not have the time or energy to do everything you planned to, but don’t blame yourself. Focus not on the things you haven’t done today but on those you have. Praise and reward yourself for every little task – you deserve it. You are enough and you do enough.
Take a rest
Nothing terrible happens if you order food instead of cooking, leave your kids with a babysitter to have some time for yourself or take a nap instead of cleaning the house. If you need it – go for it! This will restore your energy and resource, and you will be able to spread more love and care without stealing it from yourself.
Ask for help
Don’t forget to ask your husband or relatives for help if you need it. You are family and supporting each other is normal. A wish to look like a perfect woman from advertisement pictures is easy to understand, but don’t forget that you are not a picture. You are alive and have limits.
Stop judging other moms
This toxic tradition needs to be stopped. When you feel guilty for not doing it right, it’s so tempting to find someone to judge to feel better about yourself. Stop playing this game with yourself and be that one friendly woman in the mom community whose hostility and judgments are to blame for your own stress too. This will help you be kinder to yourself as well.
Remember, we can’t be productive in any activity when we are exhausted, depressed and full of self-hate. You will see how everything changes to better when you start giving yourself the care you deserve. This will give you the power you need for your endless tasks, from which being happy is the most important one.