10 Signs You Are Being Manipulated and How To Make It Stop

How to know if you’re dealing with a master manipulator.

At times, it is difficult to determine whether or not someone is doing or saying something because of genuine concern or manipulation.

Manipulation is often very subtle and hard to notice, depending on the circumstances and type of relationship. Manipulative people are everywhere and it’s important to know the characteristics of a manipulative person and how to stop people from manipulating you.

At first, manipulative people come off as sincere, compassionate and charming. They may appear kind, gentle and calm. This is just a tactic to lure you closer and get you to trust them early on. Once they have you in a relationship and in a vulnerable position, they will start to utilize their tactics of deception that they have become experts at.

Learn the signs of manipulation and how to overcome people manipulating you. Remember, many of the signs and characteristics of manipulation are subtle and can come off as general concern.

Keep these in mind:

1. They often lack insight into their behaviors and actions.

They will believe wholeheartedly that their way is the only way to deal with things because it ensures their needs are met and as long as it is beneficial to them, that’s all that matters in a manipulator’s mind.

2. They avoid taking responsibility and accountability for any of their actions or behaviors.

Oftentimes, you will hear a manipulator say “If so and so didn’t approach me that way, I wouldn’t have had to act that way” or something similar to that. They do know the meaning of responsibility but they will not hold themselves accountable nor will they listen to anyone who tries to hold them accountable.

Manipulators place the responsibility of their needs in your hands and as a result, you ignore your own needs.

3. They often criticize and judge you.

They tear you down to little bits and pieces. While they will talk down to you and judge your actions, behavior, and character, they provide no solutions or alternatives in order for it to be constructive.

4. They will isolate you from what you cherish most.

This includes friends, family, school or work. They may threaten to ruin things in your life as a scare tactic.

5. They will distort the truth or facts.

This often depends on how beneficial something is to them.

6. They bombard victims with statistics and data.

Often, they do this for subjects or topics you may not know a lot about.

7. They give you little to no time to make a choice or decision.

This is to put pressure on victims to make a quick and possibly irrational decision that benefits the manipulator.

8. They pretend they don’t understand you.

By pretending that they don’t understand what another is saying, manipulators feel that they shouldn’t be held accountable or responsible because they will justify their actions and behaviors by saying they didn’t get what the other was saying.

9. They give you the silent treatment.

This is a way for manipulators to have power and superiority over victims.

10. They hold you responsible for their happiness.

If they’re experiencing negative feelings or emotions, they will either blame you or someone elsebut eventually, it will become your fault.

None of what manipulators are projecting on to victims is their fault. These are the tactics manipulators use in order to gain or benefit from a situation or from a person.

Know the red flags and here are some suggestions on how to deal with it and make it stop:

  • Keep your distance: This is for you to observe the manipulator’s behavior in different settings. You’ll be able to observe their behavior and how they act and behave from one person to another.
  • Avoid self-blame: It’s easier to blame ourselves for feelings of inadequacy and inferiority because this is what manipulators want. You are not to blame. You are being manipulated. Remember, you are not the problem.
  • Ask probing questions: When you hear a request or expectation that is unreasonable or seems irrational, ask questions such as “Are you asking me or telling me?” or “So, how is this fair?” This shifts the focus back on to the manipulator.
  • Use your time wisely: Manipulators are going to want you to provide an answer to their request. It is important to separate yourself from the manipulator’s influence to think about the request rationally without letting their influence sway you one way or the other.
  • Learn how to say “no”: This is critical for anyone to communicate effectively. Learning how to say “no” early on will only help you in stopping manipulation.
  • Set boundaries and consequences: Make sure you set boundaries and what will happen as a result of crossing those boundaries. Stick to them as well. Actions speak louder than words.

These are the tell-tale signs and characteristics of manipulators. They have mastered the craft of manipulation and have become experts in the field of manipulation. Prepare yourself early on to deal with difficult people and behaviors.

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Some of them can be so mischievous and very quiet

Idorenyin Monday Johnson

The World is so nice and beautiful, i wish people can just be loving and stop manipulating, i wonder what they gain in making others to suffer

Abel Udoekene Jnr

Thank you Brit

Brandon Smith

this is fantastic, manipulators must be exposed

That Ghanaian Girl

i personally hate the silent treatment, it is absurd

Simon Nicholls

Manipulators are everywhere, they are very persuasive, im glad this article just break down their identity

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