How often do we open up Facebook and see our friends complaining about their partner? And, more importantly, how often do we do the same ourselves?
Frustration about “not what I hoped it would be” relationship issues dominates our news feed, backed by a ton of “hang in there” empowerment quotes designed to keep you hopeful that all will get better. But even with all of those “you deserve happiness” good vibes floating around, many people still struggle to find their way out of bad relationships and into good ones.
The sad reality is, many people feel doomed to failure; that a loving relationship is outside of their grasp and somehow they’re meant to live life in either sub-par relationships or completely alone.But here is a new idea to consider — you might already be in a good relationships, you just don’t realize how good you have it.
Perhaps this stems from holding our partner up to unrealistic standards? Or, maybe all of those “you go, girl” memes make us expect super-human perfection from our partners.
And, what about the endless search for a “soulmate”? Has chasing this ideal caused us to criticize an otherwise good relationship, simply because it’s not-quite perfect?
In her latest book, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate, best-selling author Arielle Ford shares her advice on how to bring a struggling relationship back from the brink.
From her perspective, seeing your relationship in a hopeful light requires a bit of an attitude shift. In other words, you have to want to see the best in your beloved in order to actually see it. From there, anything is possible.
Arielle believes strongly that soulmates are a real thing. But … there are some caveats.
A soulmate is NOT perfect; they are human, just like everyone else. They let you down, they’re late for carpool, they forget to pick up milk on the way home … they are human, fallible, vulnerable, and real.
Don’t view your current partner as your soulmate? Perhaps that’s because of the pressure the word inspires.
To truly step into the agreements that exist between life partners, a little less pressure would be hugely helpful. To that end, perhaps this definition of a ‘soulmate’ works better: “Someone you can completely be yourself with, someone you share unconditional love with and when you look into their eyes, you have the experience of being home.”
No need for perfection or magic. No implications that the person can’t have a bad day, lose their temper occasionally, or make a poor decision. In the video above, Arielle suggests that we love unconditionally, flaws and all.
From that place, finding a way to fall in love again with the man you’re with is always possible because you start viewing your relationship (and him) from a mindset of hope, not from disappointment.If you want to move your lackluster relationship from good to great, watch Arielle’s powerful video above for quick ways to start seeing your current partner as the soulmate you’ve always wanted.
For more wisdom and inspiration to help you remember that your beloved is actually the person already sleeping next to you, visit Arielle’s website matetosoulmate.com.
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