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If You Want a Healthy Relationship, You Need These 10 Things

I can’t imagine anyone would ask for or want an unhealthy relationship. That’s just miserable. It doesn’t take a lot to have a healthy and happy relationship. I think we complicate the process of a healthy relationship by sticking too much to societal and gender norms.

One of the key aspects of a healthy relationship is both people value equality. If you don’t agree on equality, what do you think you will agree on? Not much, I’m assuming. If you want a healthy relationship that leads to lifelong happiness, take each and every one of the concepts mentioned seriously.

Here’s a list of things that you need in order to have a healthy, successful relationship:

1. Believe in equality

Both partners have to have the same views on equality or it more than likely will not work. If both partners don’t agree on equality, how are they ever going to discuss their feelings, emotions and opinions on anything? There needs to be a common understanding with one another about equality because no one is superior or inferior to another.

2. Enjoy giving and receiving

In any relationship, reciprocity is crucial for healthy relationships. One partner shouldn’t take and take without ever giving and vice-versa. There should be an equal or close to equal amount of giving and receiving.

3. Doesn’t control one another

There are no attempts to control one another. Partners respect each other’s differing or similar opinions. They agree to disagree and are able to discuss things respectfully even if opinions differ. There are no attempts at controlling one’s mind or thoughts. There is no brainwashing involved. Abuse is definitely not part of a healthy relationship. It seems as if that should be common sense but there are times when all a person knows is abusive relationships and consider that normal.

4. Accepts each other’s flaws

Let’s face it…we all have flaws or things we can work on because no one is perfect. Sometimes, those flaws end up being adorable or you learn to love them. As long as the good outweighs the bad in terms of what you are looking for in a partner, that’s truly what matters. Not these little annoyances or petty things.

5. Doesn’t try to change one another

You both accept each other for who you are. One or the other shouldn’t ever say or imply that one should change. Partners need to accept one another with all the positives and negatives they come with. If one partner is trying to make the other change something about themselves, there is a problem. If one partner is dropping subtle hints like “you should wear your hair down more often,” or “you should cut your hair short,” may seem innocent when reading this but really, the partner is asking the other to change. It’s unacceptable and relationships won’t work out if one or both try to change each other.

6. Trust one another’s memory

At first, this statement sounded weird. But it is not because what if something happens to you and you need someone else to remember certain things? It could also be something as simple as going to the grocery store to pick up a last minute thing. You have to have faith and trust in the other’s memory as one or the other may have to make responsible and logical decisions without their partner.

7. Welcomes and invites growth in one another

As you and your partner experience life together, you will want to encourage one another and embrace growth and change with each other.

8. Encourages individuality

While you both come together on things for the relationship and to be there for one another, you also encourage each other to maintain your independence. You and your partner will value each other’s thoughts, feelings and opinions but you encourage the other to have their own beliefs and opinions regardless of what others may think or if they’ll disagree.

9. Brings out the best in one another

Obviously, you don’t want to be with someone who brings out the worst in you. That’s silly. You compliment each other by both of your unique features and that is not about looks. You and your partner are on the same level and you both highlight the amazing people you both are.

10. Experiences true intimacy

This involves both physically and mentally. It’s not just about sex. It’s about the strong emotions partners have for one another and showing it through all aspects of intimacy. It’s about exploring the strong emotions between two people mentally and physically.

In order to experience a healthy and happy relationship, these 10 things are necessary in order for your relationship to be a success.

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Written by Brittney Lindstrom

I am a mental health counselor and certified rehabilitation counselor. I am currently in my doctorate program for organizational leadership and behavior. I have been writing for over 7 years now.

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That Ghanaian Girl

yes, its should be a two way traffic “In any relationship, reciprocity is crucial for healthy relationships. One partner shouldn’t take and take without ever giving and vice-versa”


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Simon Nicholls

im glad am here to read this, amazing as always



The Sport guy

I hate dictators “There are no attempts to control one another. Partners respect each other’s differing or similar opinions” this is how it should be

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